Is Marriage Outdated?

You're 25, working, earning a living, beautiful, smart, living and loving life until you hear those 5 terrifying words, "When are you getting married?" It has become a compulsory question to ask every people who are either 25, working, or ready to have a child! We have all at least heard this question in our life, either someone saying it to us, or saying it to someone we know.

But the much bigger scary question is "Do I want to get married?" We all come to an age where we are "deemed" as ready to marry someone, stay with them forever, have children, look after them, grow old and die. And it is even worst if you do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend, because that means that you will have to marry someone you don't know through an arranged marriage, a stranger. But sometimes, marriage is not the answer for everyone. A study concludes that only 20% of people nowadays are for marriages while the rest view it as something unnecessary and not important.

Now, I am not saying that marriage is bad or that no one should get married, but marriage is simply not for everyone, and you know what, that is totally fine. You should never feel forced to get married just because of what people are saying or thinking about you. The way our society has been functioning is; if you are a man, you should definitely already be married by 30 years old, have a beautiful wife and some kids and work for your family. And the pressure is even worst for girls. Girls need to get married by latest 25 years old, leave all their families behind, have babies, be great mothers and caregivers.

In some countries, young girls are even getting married to much older men, which is another discussion on its own. But, we should not be forced to do it. Marriage is not the only symbol of loving someone. If you truly love someone, then marriage is not the only action to show it. Now people are moving in together, cultivating the tradition of living under the same roof as life partners. Monogamy is also becoming tricky. Not everyone wants to spend their whole life with one person, and that is totally okay. Now, being 35 and not needing a man/woman is a lot more OK than it once was.

A marriage can be severely limiting to some but there are always some people who want to get married, and that is okay too. If you dream of having a lavish wedding with all your friends and families, then go ahead and do it. Some people believe that marriage bring two people closer or it reinforces their love as it creates a spiritual bond. And if that is what they want to do, I am totally for it. Marriage is a way to show your love, to claim your love and to say to everyone that you have found THE ONE.

The thing to take from this post is marriage depends on the person's wishes only. If someone wants to get married with the right person, then go for it. But if someone does not want to go down the aisle, then that is fine too. Marriage is not a necessity as it once was. It has become more of an option and it is okay to choose it or not. Marriage is more of an outdated system and one that people used to show they love each other. The decision to get married should solely be taken by the two persons involved as they will be the one who will spend their whole life together. If there is love, then that is enough.